By Dr. Michael J. Salamon
The Shidduch problem: explanations and therapies takes a difficult, sincere examine the genuine problems confronted by means of the courting public in at the present time s Orthodox global. With the premiums of divorce and consuming problems emerging, proceedings in regards to the scarcity of fellows and the circulation clear of socializing actions to the broad use of third-party matchmakers, a real predicament exists and should be worsening. during this booklet, the writer explores those matters, rather these regarding how suits are made. He unearths that the majority are made in line with availability, no longer compatibility, and on superficial standards that experience no relevance to what actually makes a wedding profitable. mentioning correct information from the fields of psychology, sociology, and neurology, besides a bunch of anecdotes from quite a lot of humans, Dr. Salamon, a well known psychologist, writer, and lecturer, offers directions to assist alleviate this crisis.
Dr. Salamon seems to be on the lists of standards, the questions that individuals ask and the expectancies for a mate that experience built during the last numerous years in the shidduch (matchmaking for marriage) approach, and exhibits how they're counter-intuitive for forming fit marriages. He additionally exhibits how a lot of what passes for heritage checking, in reality, will be lashon ha-ra (tale bearing). yet most significantly, Dr. Salamon presents actual feedback for going past the actual, superficial criteria that experience contributed to a constructing shidduch hindrance. He advocates an technique the place a degree of non-public adulthood is back to those that are courting and makes the case for relieving the exterior pressures at the courting couple.
Dr. Michael Salamon has written a e-book which touches on extremely important concerns in terms of the Jewish kin. those topics needs to be addressed by means of the group, colleges, the Rabbinate, and the kin. Dr. Salamon s paintings makes an immense contribution to the dialogue which needs to ensue. I congratulate him for his perception and wish that his booklet can be a catalyst for extra notion scary contributions on elevating our kids in a really tough global. --Rabbi Hershel Billet
Dr. Salamon has written a gently researched and fact-filled publication concerning the shidduch difficulty within the Orthodox group. This ebook addresses a vacuum during this zone via offering goal and common sense information about this nervousness crammed method. Dr. Salamon convincingly debunks a few of the risky misconceptions that regularly advisor the taking into account mom and dad and younger women and men in picking out whom they'll date and the way they are going to make a decision whom to marry. utilizing a mixture of good judgment and reliable mental examine, Dr. Salamon s suggestions relating to what's quite predictive of luck in marriage are enlightening and necessary to all who're considering making what's probably one among lifestyles s most crucial judgements. i like to recommend this publication hugely to these on the point of date, their mom and dad and people desirous about making shidduchim. --Professor David Pelcovitz
I have simply learn an awesome e-book in this topic entitled The Shidduch challenge: motives and treatments (Urim 2008) through Dr Michael J. Salamon, Ph D. i'd hugely suggest this extremely important ebook to rabbbanim, mchanchim, mom and dad and people of our kids within the Parsha. This books analyzes the place we've jointly erred during this procedure as a group, educators and fogeys. IMO, meetings in this topic will remedy no element of the matter until we rigorously research the approach and its a number of deficiencies and discover with assistance from every thing that our Gdolim have stated that the shidduch procedure easily ignores midos and locations a top class on having the ability to resolution a chain of stereotypical questions within the optimistic. --Steve Brizel, past BT blog